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Originally Posted by tin58
Alright so I've posted a bit about this in the past. I realize it is a sensitive subject, as I'd much of what is discussed here.
Basically in my life my religion was everything to me. I felt it was a core aspect of who I was, what I stood for, what fought for. To me my religion was the opposite of my alcohlic parents.
A lot has unfolded and I could go on and on. Basically in this religion I feel you are shamed for having friends that do not believe the same things. But I feel the big problem is that members of this religion do not believe in ACOA stuff. i feel they dont believe in getting/giving/having support in regards to acoa issues. I feel your just supposed to pretend like it's no big deal. I feel I've been told a whole host of horrible things / shame oriented things because I was fighting for healing, support and understanding.
So basically I feel I've been forced to come to the conclusion that it simply is no place for me or people like me.
The trouble for me is that my beliefs were a core part of who I felt I was. Now i feel i dont know if i have any beliefs. I dont know what i stand for. I don't know who I am. i dont know where I belong. I just have no clue any more.
Anyone else been through similar? What do I do with myself???
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Those in your church are just as human as the rest of us. You do not have to believe in the "people"...you are learning and growing. Many times we do outgrow people. They may not or will not understand. You find out who you are. I can see a change in your posts for the better... with this new one..I can tell you are hurting today. Be good to yourself.
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