Tone of voice has a lot to do with communication. As a woman I know it is easy to come across as demanding if I push too hard. Men seem to need to be heard just as we do. Also they tend to be problem solvers whereas we like to talk our way through a problem. Some times we need to learn that men are wired differently.

I found that changing my expectations and learning about what my husband wants or needs goes a long way.

I am not sure what'ser this really addresses you concerns. Just thought I would share what has helped me. I am rooting for you. You deserve to have a meaningful relationship