Hi Quiddie,
I feel for you and I am very sorry you are suffering this much. But I have hopes for you. You are 32 and on time to make some changes in your life. I did it when I was almost 40! You can do it.
Perhaps you have been somehow impaired by your early relationships. That is why you have put up with the crap coming for those you called friends but that are not really available for you. One thing to take into account when evaluating your issues with friendship is that we are living a period where more and more people just care about themselves. It is not rare to end with egotistical people because there are many of them around. Regarding jobs, the market has problems, anyway, maybe issues with your self esteem may be interfering so you are not able to place yourself in a better job.
Therapy sometimes works, and sometimes it does not work. It is true that we have to search for good therapists and do not give up immediately. But it is also true that there are alternative paths you can take in order to start a process of self discovery and self determination. You are a young adult now and little by little you will assume the control of your life. In my case, going overseas and staying there for a long period of time was more powerful than any therapy I had. I needed to be far away in order to build and rebuild myself. Other people do other things, you can explore different means but to me you should try to detach yourself from stuff that is amputating your self.
Ok, I wish you the best and hope you keep posting .
A big hug