Thanks for the advice guys.

I guess I feel very awkward and uncomfortable about bringing up any issues to talk about, and I tend to have gone over everything in my head quite a bit. So by the time I say it I think it comes across as a big deal and then he doesn't really know what to say. Like usually I'm just looking for a bit of reassurance that he's willing to make more or an effort or were on the same page about things before moving forward because I really don't want history to repeat itself.

In relationships before I know the guys that I'm with have felt the same, that when I bring something up I seem very serious and it feels like the relationship is on the brink. They never seem to be able to handle the discussion and I think they all find the conversations like that make them very anxious and they don't know what the right thing to say is. I don't know if it's also an age thing cause I'm 27 and my boyfriends have all been the same age as me so maybe it takes some guys a bit more experience to be able to have conversations like that without freaking out. But I can't help thinking that I'm the common denominator so something in my approach isn't working.