(((((MountainGirl)))) I am sorry to hear all this.

I think that if nobody confronts her it will never stop, so the best thing to do is probably to confront her and tell her that she doesnt have to know everything about your life and that you prefer to live your own life, with your own family. Explain that calling every now and then is okay, but all the time and calling everyone asking where you are is a little much. also the fact that she calls your husbands boss is a little much i think. I hope this helps and that everything turns out okay!