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Old Aug 10, 2015, 10:55 AM
Anonymous200320
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Originally Posted by BayBrony View Post
I think it depends on your issues. As a kid I underwent a lot of abuse based on my perceived unattractive appearance. My first T in college was a lesbian as am i, and told me things like " I bet you can get any girl you want" " you have a wonderful body and beautiful spirit" etx. My current T is straight but has said my body is "very cute" that I have gorgeous legs etc.
But these are not weird off the cuff statements. A big part of my therapy is working on my body dysmorphia. If someone is dealing with similar issues I think those sort of comments have a place. My internal image of my body does not match reality and this causes a lot of suffering for me. My image of myself needs to be oriented towards reality.
However never did these comments make me feel "weird" or like something inappropriate was being said. I struggled with trying to internalize a different image but it never felt weird. Personally I think if some thing in you makes you need to ask if it is inappropriate, it probably is at least for you
Well, I deal with slightly similar issues - I am physically very unattractive and am very well aware of it - it's not dysmorphia though, because it is not a misconception on my part. For me it would be very inappropriate to have a therapist (whether the therapist was male, female, ungendered, old, middle-aged, young, or other) compliment my body or my appearance in any way. Just as inappropriate as it would have been if I'd been good-looking.

I agree with your last statement, though - if you think it's inappropriate, then it is inappropriate for you. Doesn't mean that it is inappropriate for everybody, but you should be allowed to react in a way that is right for you.