I am a man and I don't defend cheating. However, it does take two to tango, as it were. A married man seems to have many attributes that make him attractive to women -stability, economic advantages, better health, etc. It is up to the man to understand and accept that despite being committed to one partner, he will continue to find other women attractive. IT is also up to the man to reign in his hormones and not act on his desires. It is up to the woman to ask herself who this person is and why they are hitting on her. If this happens in the context of a bar/nightclub, I say you get what you get. I have a few female friends who have been in long term affairs with married men. They all had elaborate justifications regarding why they remained in the relationships and they appeared to understand the limitations of the relationshps. They are attractive and intelligent women and in one case, single and potentially available to other prospective partners; in another case, financially locked into an unsatisfying long term relationship, so seeking satisfaction elsewhere. So, I wouldn't say cheating is solely the province of men, but yes, I agree that more men cheat on their spouses than women.