I think your therapist could be potentially very helpful as far as prompting and guiding the two of you in communicating whatever it is you are struggling to communicate (that you want to).

There are pros and cons to most things in life. When you grow up with a very rough childhood, you might "toughen up" and "wise up" faster than average, but it comes with a huge price, trust me. You might be very tough and have a certain type of wisdom that people with normal childhoods don't have, but you also come out inevitably damaged. It's just the way it is.

People who go through good or normal childhoods may feel naive or less tough than someone who survived a very rough or abusive childhood, but you also emerge without the psychological and emotional damage lurking beneath the surface, which means that in the long run (as opposed to the immediate, short-term), your chances of functioning well are actually superior.