You're mother obviously has many issues. I sponsored a young girl, who at 16 was the mother in the relationship. You have many similarities.

Initially I was going to say to ignore her, but when she calls your husbands job that's a problem. She needs to be told she can't do that and if she persists than you should file a restraining order against her.

As far as your relatives telling you that she is looking for you, just say thank you, she knows where I am.

It's very hard I'm sure but you can't allow her to destroy you and your family's life. Make it CLEAR to her and if she persists, get that restraining order.

Tranquility