Dear MC,
Yeah, maybe I was initially trying to avoid the transference topic at first, but I think what we talked about was important and helpful. Of course, it's maybe a bit...ironic that I was worried about talking about paternal (and a little erotic) transference and what we wound up talking about was...parenting. Hearing you describe how you used to lie with your kids in bed to help them go to sleep, just the way I do with my daughter, was rather heartwarming. Even if maybe you partly did it to avoid doing the dishes You also admitted to having a lot of self-doubt like I do (and which my H doesn't)--I think you also realize that we're wired pretty similarly, which is part of why I connect with you so well. And it was nice to hear you say "It was good to see you" again when you shook my hand--I haven't heard that in a few weeks for various reasons. Wish I could hug you.