Cymbalta (SNRI--they tend to work faster than SSRIs), Paxil (SSRI), and Wellbutrin, either alone or with an SSRI or SNRI are a few options. I've been on all of those, plus everything you mentioned except Lexapro, at various points. I think Abilify is like Wellbutrin in that it can be added to help other meds--p-doc offered me that or Wellbutrin recently, and I went with Wellbutrin.

Everyone reacts differently, so I won't share my reactions except to say that I also had problems with Effexor, as well as Prozac. Good luck!