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Originally Posted by Snap309
Hey Guys~
I am new at this site and posted in a few forums here, but thought it would be best to place a posting in THIS forum.
As a quick intro again...I am a 58 y/o married guy (2 marriages) and one grown daughter.
My personal issues that I would like to know if others can relate to is this...
Most of my life I have experienced high anxiety and even strong panic attacks at times regarding my deep seated feelings of embarrassment and shame for being male. To be even more specific, whenever the subject of "penises" comes about with females in a PUBLIC situation I am overwhelmed by intense feelings of a "fight or flight" response.
I very basically understand now that I become angry inside when women talk about/ joke about/ or even find disgust and their equipment. Its like we are sexually evil and possess these evil weapons (penises)
In contract, women have these hidden sexual things that that don't even discuss amongst themselves (calling their vaginas..."down THERE"/etc)
I feel "exposed" in public and humiliated when this happens...I almost have rage inside for this! I KNOW intellectually that this is ********, however- its a strong feeling cant shake inside.
I DO Have some ideas of where all these feelings stem from (but that is another posting itself)
Hope to hear from you and discuss this topic and any others that you want to.
Thx,,,Snap309
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Welcome aboard Snap309. It sounds to me like this might be a symptom of multiple issues. I would guess it probably stems from childhood and some events that happened. You mentioned you have some ideas on where those feelings come from, so that's a great start. Have you talked to a therapist about this?
Now this was a very interesting statement to me:
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Originally Posted by Snap309
Its like we are sexually evil and possess these evil weapons (penises)
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One thing men have to deal with is the idea that we're "gross" our whole lives. We can have been married for years with an active sex life, but if we're naked at the wrong time or do something different in bed or whatnot, the reaction from our partners is often, "Gross." This idea of our penis being gross and ejaculation being gross and so on, is conditioned over time by the reactions of our partners and society as a whole. So men are often left feeling like their sexuality and biology are some how not fine, but repulsive. The implications of course are numerous.