I had Therapy decades ago and it got me no where. I quit.

My Therapy now? Its all goal orientated. My T pushes me when need be. My life has changed for the better in every way possible.

Some people like just having someone to go unload on, just speak out loud all the current problems but not really looking or wanting to find solutions, and hey thats fine. But If you want to make actual changes I think you need to be your own best advocate and say I want Therapy to help me deal with XYZ.

In general people never get what they want and need unless they ask for it.