hello, many diagnoses (dx's) have overlapping symptoms so you may find you have various traits of multiple dx's so that is what makes diagnosing an art form instead of an exact science.
You can hang out in the various forums and chats and see where you feel most comfortable.
Hope you find a way to feel better about yourself. Here is an article I discovered today on building self-esteem.
Building Self-Esteem | Psych Central