Agreed re people in general (and Ts really should know better) saying things they don't follow through. Don't say/promise anything then?! And yes, it really doesn't help one trust people.

You seem to have some rough luck with these Ts...and you did well to give up on them. Still, just a couple of thoughts:
1) is it too late for your regular T to give you this referral? Can you chase her with it or her secretary? Obviously her health situation takes precedence but (imo) she really ought to have made sure her clients got a 'security net ' in the interim...

2) I would still go to the group facilitator thing (despite feeling miffed from their lack of consistency) just because this is currently the only source of support you have. Kind of like a "don't cut your nose to spite your face" type of thing. What do you think? Could you give them another chance?

3) additional thought. Would it be possible to look for anyone (T) decent, even if not from an LGBT orientation? Again, just so you have someone for you.

It's not easy finding Ts who resonate with us but don't give up. There's got to be someone for you out there...