I've had problems my whole life making and keeping general friendships. The past few years I've gotten better with making a connection but fail epically to keep the connection. I'm scared of contacting them at the wrong moments or whatever. Then I also over share most of the time and if they aren't ready to help me out as a friend that connection get lost.
As of this year these problems have never really been that big of a deal for me, I just saw it as I never learn as a kid or I miss the time while in a small town to connect with friends who I might have met up with each week or other week for a coffee or what not. It also made it harder that I didn't goto college right out of high school but traveled. I wasn't in one place long enough make long term friendship connections.
Now that I have a kid of my own I feel like I need to make other mommy friends, for her. I don't want her to have the same problems as I do now and feel like she hasn't many friends. I have made one friend in January while shopping in an Old Navy because I had my little girl in a front facing baby carrier.
Needless to say I hit off with the women and befriended her on facebook while still in the store. She has invited me into a group of moms that she is in, I have been invited around her place for dinner, lunches and we hang out when she lets me know of stuff that is going on. Which has been fun and it has been pretty awesome when I end up hang out with the group of women. I'm still fairly shy around them, pretty much chat with them but stick around the women I met first. It's also been good for my little girl as she bit behind in her milestones but I do think it's in account that I don't get her out around other babies much, as she tries to copy the other kids with crawling and walking. Pretty soon my fear of having her around other babies and sicknesses will be better as she is nearly a yr old and will get her MMR shot this month.
With this being side, sorry for the long one, does another else feel this way? If you have learn how to deal with stuff like this any tips? Maybe I'm just more shy than I like to think.
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