agreed re people in general (and ts really should know better) saying things they don't follow through. Don't say/promise anything then?! And yes, it really doesn't help one trust people.

Thanks!

You seem to have some rough luck with these ts...and you did well to give up on them. Still, just a couple of thoughts:
1) is it too late for your regular t to give you this referral? Can you chase her with it or her secretary? Obviously her health situation takes precedence but (imo) she really ought to have made sure her clients got a 'security net ' in the interim...

I actually did send an e-mail through her business website. She doesnt have a secretary or receptionist or anything like that, but maybe someone is answering her wesbite email? I'll see if i get a response.

2) i would still go to the group facilitator thing (despite feeling miffed from their lack of consistency) just because this is currently the only source of support you have. Kind of like a "don't cut your nose to spite your face" type of thing. What do you think? Could you give them another chance?

I am still planning on going. It's on thursday. It's just unfortunate that i had a good feeling about the group when i went to the first session (and the facilitator knows my t), but now i no longer have a positive opinion of the group/facilitator. I'll be honest (but polite) and bring up the fact that she did not follow through on the phone call. I will see what her reaction is, and take things from there. I don't want to quit the group, but it will be informative to see whether she owns the mistake or not. The only thing is that, since i no longer trust or feel safe with her, it no longer feels okay to share very personal things in group. I will go but limit my trust and participation.

3) additional thought. Would it be possible to look for anyone (t) decent, even if not from an lgbt orientation? Again, just so you have someone for you.

The first t i did a consulation appointment with was actually not lgbt (i was trying to be open) and that session just made it sooo clear to me that i need someone who is lgbt. The stuff i am working on is all about relationships, and if my t just doesn't get it and says things that make no sense (and are often really offensive), she really can't help me.

It's not easy finding ts who resonate with us but don't give up. There's got to be someone for you out there...

Thanks!