It’s all about your quality of life. If therapy is the ONLY painful part, I don’t see a point in continuing a never-ending pattern of pain. There are always going to be things to work on, and more certain than that, there will always be people standing by willing to take your money to ‘help’. Just because you take a break now, doesn’t mean you can’t go back later… even with the same person should the relationship end amicably.

In my experience, switching T’s just hits the re-set button, and inevitably you’ll be back in the same attached, dependent state. Therapy encourages it, and certain personality types are more susceptible to entrapment. I had a similar relationship with my T, but we’re going through a rupture now, and I don’t feel connected to her at all. Whereas before, I would feel a maternal longing between sessions, all I feel now is anger and resentment. I’m considering quitting soon, while I can. But there’s a part of me that really misses the nurturing, loving sessions, so it’s not an easy choice. If a referral is in your future, I see why leaving on your own seems the more empowering action.