Seeker,
I liked what you had to say. this is as close to a conciousness raising group as I've been able to find. They all went out with the 70's and 80's.( I know, I went looking for one) I was thinking just this morning as I was writing in my journal. I've been full of fear and negative expectations about potential relationships based on my past relationships. (believe me, you don't want to hear about them) I have changed over the years. i'm smarter, more compassionate, more insightful. if I'm not the same woman, why do I expect men that i meet to be the same? Is ity because my reality is in the past instead of the now? "As a man thinketh, so is he." (ask Oprah, she made her won reality) Sure, we are not Oprah, but if she can move out of her past, so can we. When I look at my own dreams and goals, a relationship is just one goal. I've been making it my end all, my saving grace, a indication of my worth. No wonder i've been so dissapointed by them. i'm going to TRY to expect a man to be no more "perfect" than I am. (there's a thought) I'm going to join a couple of free dating site today. this is my third time trying. i've grown now, let's see what happens. forgive my wordiness. I'm just so glad to be exploring the subject, where the emphasis is on "us" not "them" Hopefully this dialog will continue.