Idk, i went thru a period of at least a few years with this t where i wondered how people understood each other at all, let alone feel connected. I feel like my t never takes the connection for granted, he is always working at it, always actively listening. A situation came up a couple of weeks ago when he was out of town and unreachable, but i was pretty sure what his opinion would be. And turned out i was right, almost word for word! But i didnt realize until then, until it was tested in real life, how connected we had become. But first i learned more about my own feelings and needs and stuff.