Hi.
What a frustrating situation! Yes it's so upsetting for me too when professionals especially aren't consistent and don't follow through and then expect clients to do just that. That was the big reason I had had enough with my last t.
Anyway I'm very good at online research/ advocacy in this area and was gonna say I'd be glad to help. But since you've called twenty people it would be likely the same twenty people I would have found so yeah. I'm upset to on your behalf mostly at your current t for not giving you the referral. I would have a long talk with them when they got back!
a And yeah those two you saw sound horible!
If you do need help with research, a break where someone else does the writing/ calling I would be glad to do that.