Not saying that it is your case, but i would add the following: Are you sure that you are, indeed, being offended? Insulted? Is he actually using offensive and hurtful language, or are you "picking up" on those insults indirectly? I might sound insensitive, but i have a very emotional girlfriend that will many, many times take some conducts or situations as someone degrading her or insulting her, even if its not the case at all. She just sees pretty much everybody as having something against her, and thus their actions always have some sort of hidden (hurtful, offensive) meaning. She too feels things too intensely - partly because of her own personality, and partly because she's also going through a rough time. In my case, i try to deal with it very calmly, although not ignoring it (which would make her even angrier).