We are both seeing a psychiatrist and are being treated for depression. I had it before, but this situation made me relapse. I can't "take care of myself" any other way. I understand the good it comes from having hobbies, being able to detach myself from the whole scenario (if even for a short while), but its almost impossible. Her being unemployed also means she spends most of her time by herself, waiting for me to come home. Coming home later because i went to the gym or have a couple of drinks, or even being home and doing something by myself is regarded as "not giving a damn" about her.