I think you're really brave. The way things ended with mine, I am devestated and crushed, and I miss her a ton. HOWEVER, in a lot of ways I am less anxious without the fear of losing her.

I'm not doing well in general, but the one positive thing is no more fear of losing her.

I think if therapy creates issues and makes things worse, maybe it's not a good idea. But then again I am really skeptical of the idea that we can work out other relationships through "transference." Maybe try to find someone who focuses on dealing with the hurt you have in concrete ways rather than dwelling on it through exploration of "transference."