Widowed 7 years. Attraction was instant - since 2013 - been in love for a year (she says much longer). I have been "living separate (and celibate)" for about 10 years (clause in separation agreement kept us under one roof due to children - but that is expiring next year). She has known him for 14 months.
She claims love at first sight with him - but still fell in love with me ... It is easier for her to be seen with him because of closer age ... However we are far closer intellectually, spiritually, musically - and the list goes on (she actually made one). We are constantly being "kept together" by "the forces that be" (see religion or other beliefs). We have not been successful in staying away from each other for long - despite ourselves. At first I stayed "distant" (read: lots of texting and once a week "non-date") out of respect for my friend - then as I increasingly lost respect for him (won't go into details) it became easier to be together.
We cannot stay apart - and when we do - we are "slammed" back together by sudden and unusual circumstances, and this has actually been happening since October 2014.
Now she is with him for 3 days, and the rest of the time we socialize, text, visit, call etc. and that would be fine if we weren't also deeply in love.We admit a book written about us would never sell, because nobody would believe it!
The other day she burst into sobbing {in public) - saying that she loves me so much that she hopes that I will find someone else to love as much as I love her- but saying she'd never get over it.
It's a bit of "cake and eat it too" situation, I realize, but but we are so good together that the world just "clicks" ... and today HE says he wants to move in ... my world may yet fall apart. (Sorry I think I went on a bit .... )