Your husband has so many passive-aggressive behaviors (I hate that term, but what else can we call it?) I recognize well the poorly done work strategy. "I did it for you, didn't I? Why are you so fussy? Nothing ever pleases you." Suddenly, I am the ***** and he is the Saint.

Make no mistake about it -- the fact that you are disturbed about this woman is exactly WHY he is pursuing the friendship (or more).

I'm sorry you are going through this, SeptemberMorn. ((((((You))))))