Wow, thanks everybody for your suggestions. Seeker, by "free" I mean sites that don't cost anything to join or to be a member. it's one way of not trying so hard. Ok...common interests...there's medicine(I'm a nurse). You know times have changed when all of the docs are young enough to almost be my sons.(the rest are married)Then there's acting...where the men are more self-absorbed than I am.There's church, where I've found that I tend to lose my focus(God) when I'm trying to look cute for a man. There's my bipolar..and DocJohn told me to steer away from that. One crazy person is enough for one relationship.(he didn't say that part) Well, it's back to online dating. All I can say is I promise to be careful, and to have outside interests, and to do what DocJohn suggest, to "aim high." Don't you love that? Well, thanks again ladies. I hope you're around if I get my heart broken. Oh, by the way, the only reason I'm being so positive is because if I really took a serious look at the statistics, "Educated Black Woman Over 50," I'd go jump off a bridge.