I work from home, so I get dressed specifically for therapy. With T, she's very stylish, and I've told her I care about my appearance, so I try to seem put together. Lately, I've decided I need to wear dresses more, so I've worn them to my last couple appointments--fairly casual ones, and styled casually. And each time, she's said, "You're dressed up!" So I think my goal needs to be to wear dresses enough that she no longer says that...

With marriage counselor, I try to walk the fine line between looking pretty good but not looking overtly sexy, because of the whole transference thing, which H knows about. There have been a couple times when I haven't realized until I was there that I was showing, say, a bit more cleavage than I'd intended. Which is especially a thing if I'm weepy and reaching for a tissue, which is on the table between where I sit on the loveseat (H on other side) and MC sits on the couch. I don't want to seem like, I'm all weepy, and hey, look at my boobs! (Or at least for H to realize that!) I also tend to wear some sort of jewelry I can play with, like a necklace or ring, to play with if I'm anxious, so I don't end up playing with my hair instead (or my wedding ring). Though I often end up playing with my hair anyway...interestingly, I don't tend to do that with T. It's more just playing with my hands or whatever jewelry I have on. So it's probably a subconscious flirty thing...

With p-doc, I'm kinda like whatever, but still want to look a little pulled together. Unless I'm a mess and want her to realize that, so she'll change my meds. Then I'll look a bit less pulled together. Like one time, when I was feeling really bad, I was going to just grab the closest shirt, but realized it was a palm tree print, which seemed a bit too...happy/carefree for my mood. Think I went with a black or navy shirt instead.