Here is a perfect example of the kind of thing I am talking about when I say people like me are blamed for their situation. I posted a question/rant on yahoo answers about how the dating scene sucks so bad after college. Here is exactly what I posted. Here is an actual reply I got from someone:

"You sound like you wouldn't be much fun yourself having been socially awkward and depressed before and then wanting women to waste their time with you when you clearly have not developed a lot of graces - and don't want a real meaningful relationship to boot. What would be the point of putting up with your negativity? - it sounds like going out with you would be painful. What sort of enjoyment would you offer a woman? It's sounds like none."

In other words, people screwed me up with their bullying and rejection and now I am the problem for not being "pleasant" enough. And all that matters apparently is what I have to offer women. My needs are irrelevant, only theirs matter. If I am forced into eternal loneliness it's ok but God forbid a woman ever ends up going out with a guy who doesn't give her everything she wants.