In the eyes of the Law, there is NO SUCH THING as consenual sex. He was 21 bedding down a 14 year old child. He knew better. He needs the crap scared out of him, that's for sure. When he finds out after he's sober, that might make him beat feet out of town!!! He knows the law and he's not about to come forward. He's facing 8 to 25 years for that plus his foto will now be put on the Sex Offenders hotline and everyone will be able to find out what he did. He's a pedaphile....pure and simple! He's not going to like prison.
As for your immediate dilemma, by all means, go and have a rape kit done. This gives you the evidence you need to press charges. They won't humiliate you at a Rape Crises Ctr. They will help you with counseling, examination, and advice for STD's. You will want to have an
AIDS test done as well. For your own peace of mind. That's the problem today, not just getting pregnant, you can get around that, but AIDS takes your life. That would be a real tragedy. At 14 you've just begun to live. On the other hand,
at some point, you also have to accept responsibilty for your part. You were drinking, young lady, and that's never a good idea at your age!!! Please be more careful in the future. Enjoy your time as a child. It passes by before you know it.