Does anyone recognize this problem?

Because I am so shy, I tend to stay away from the most confident people because I feel intimidated by them or inferior to them. I tend to be drawn to other shy people and loners. I feel like Iike I relate to them, that they are like me.

But usually after a while I figure out they are not like me at all. At best, they really are as boring as they seem. I don't feel comfortable in groups and it takes a long time to get to know me but in one on one contact I talk a lot more. (Maybe even too much sometimes) but several people I've met and saw as potential friends never seemed to losen up and talk a bit more. (I hope that doesn't sound mean!)

At worst, I find out they are loners by choice, they are not interested in making friends with anyone. But of course I will always feel personally rejected and wonder why I'm not good enough. Especially when I've put a lot of energy into this person, gotten out of my comfort zone in trying to connect with them.

It's making me feel like I don't fit in anywhere.