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Originally Posted by Claritytoo
"manage your problems with out using your dissociation skills," This is exactly what is completely unknown to me. I wouldn't even know were to start. I switch for everything depending on the situation. If I didn't switch who would be there to manage? I can not conceptualize this concept in my mind. No beginning. Its like listening to a foreign language. It's empty to me. But I hear it said all the time. Again, if I didn't switch who would manage?
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you start by using your grounding skills that you learn in therapy...
at work there was one activity that always caused me to switch\dissociate. Staff meetings. I knew that every time there was a staff meeting I would not remember going to that meeting,But my co workers would be coming up to me and talking about ideas that were thrown around during the staff meeting.
one day in therapy my therapist and I talked about how i end up slacking through life on the coat tails of dissociating where staff meetings were concerned.
I decided thats it no more dissociating through staff meetings. Its time I took control of my life, stop free loading on the excuse of oh well I always get through it so no biggie. I felt it was time that I not have this chunk of time where I had no idea what had happened. I mean it would be real nice to be able to know what my co workers were talking about rather than faking it and piecing together information on the fly. Like my therapist and I discussed...Imagine getting rid of that chaos in my life..
Yes I was willing to give this a try. When a staff meeting was scheduled I wrote it on my desk calendar. Then I wrote up a plan of action. ...
I will stay focused
I will Breath
I will pay attention to what people say to me
I will breath
I will feel my body parts
I will notice at least 8 colors in the room
I will write down who is attending the meeting
I will notice...
the morning of the meeting
I will have a nice nutritious well balanced breakfast
I will wear clothes that look appropriate for work but comforting too.
I will take in with me my favorite coffee creamer to add to the office coffee, this will stimulate my taste buds and help keep me grounded during the meeting.
I will...
After the meeting...
if I have met my goal I will reward myself with ....
If I have not met the whole goal of staying grounded during the meeting I will reward myself for making the effort by...
If I am unable to remain grounded during at least part of the meeting take notice of why so that I can make a better plan of action for the next meeting.
you do this for what ever dissociative problem you want and are ready to take care of and start handling on your own with out using dissociation to get through it.
start out small, something you are sure you can be successful with doing then work your way through to the harder issues. as time goes on and with practice you learn how to handle your own problems with out the use of dissociation to get you through them.