I just read a post which I think is illuminating regarding what I (and probably others) struggle with sometimes.

I hope it's ok to post it, my purpose is to try to help others avoid some of the painful pitfalls I've fallen into...

If you encounter people in your travels who are intent on blaming others (as in you) and are intent on projecting "stuff" onto you...

Separation of Stuff!

look at the situation from a distance if you can (hard to do sometimes I know)

I love this "it's not my circus, not my monkeys "