I completely understand her reasoning. My problem is how she went about it. Not talking to me? Just implementing change and waiting for me to notice and bring it up? That was very hurtful to me, and leaves me constantly scanning the horizon for what she will change next. She quit using the word "love." She quit with the healing, long hugs she used to give me. So she just keeps adding more. It kind of feels like bait and switch. She offered that behavior to help me trust her more, and stay with the topic (I was dissociating). Then when she felt like she had it, she took the behavior away. My trust is horribly tainted now. So everything she earned has been compromised. If she would have just talked to me, that could have avoided a lot of hurt.