Hi Pugs and Hugs. Welcome to Psych Central. Sorry you are feeling depressed about the aftermath of a flashback. I know how much it can hurt to have a relationship and have it shaken by a comment that afterwards is seen as inappropriate.

Unfortunately many in the Psych Central community report bfs, family and friends who were alienated by their erratic behavior even if only once. Trying to have a romance with someone who has not trudged through trauma or depression is a hard row to hoe. Many people here find their best friends that they can relate to most easily and who accept them are here online.

Having a therapist that relates well to trauma and abuse can really help. It is worth asking if meds might be appropriate to stabilize your emotions, although that may not prevent flashbacks. Maybe that flashback you had would hold some nugget of wisdom if you shared it with your therapist.

Many people who are actively involved in Psych Central find it helps take them out of their own problems to develop empathy for others. And their problems though still there are more manageable.

There are lots of compassionate people here that can make the load lighter by sharing and caring. Feel free to participate actively at Psych Central. Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek. http://forums.psychcentral.com

Please feel free to private message me or any of the Community Liaisons by left clicking on the name in blue to the left of their post) for questions or just to share.