Oh, I'm so sorry Rhapsody-- that you are going through this.
My mom accuses any of her offspring that try to become close to her, of horrible things-- like stealing from her, manipulating her, taking advantage of her....... it's hard to deal with a mother that wrongly accuses--- I'm so sorry you are going through this also--

.. and when you've been there for her-- that makes the upset even more so
Though it makes us angry-- please keep in mind -- try not to let it bring you down-- not to feel bad about yourself--(by your post-- it seems you aren't blaming yourself-- that's good) that's what I'm working to accomplish.
Rhap
mandy