I don't even have a secret....

I personally go with "when it comes up", because there really isn't a right time for anything. Life happens and unfolds as it will.

I know many people here have had less than desirable experiences (Read godawful) with divulging their dx, and Idk if that has anything to do with when or how they divulge, or if they are just generally surrounded by craptastic people... but I do know, plenty here have been burned.

Me? I've never bothered to hide my dx from anyone, not friends. family, bf, or any employers.... And it's not because I wear my dx like a badge and shout it from the roof tops. I'm just comfortable with taking an opening when I'm presented with it, and completely disregard timelines.

For example: A bunch of friends hanging out watching a reality show with a BP character and someone makes an ignorant remark, or a coworker makes an off key BP remark; I boldly and swiftly interject, clarify, rectify or whatever. Then they ask "wow how do you even know all this stuff?", and I'm like, "because I also have BP, DUH"

For some reason, I've had very "good luck" about being so casual about my dx, but I know this is not everyone else's reality, so i'm not suggesting you randomly mention it to every Tom Drick and Harry.

Maybe you should post a poll and see what the results are, then take it from there.