I agree with the others comments. This person is an abuser.....a classic abuser! Meaning once she senses that you are getting ready to take a stand for yourself by leaving her, she turns on the manipulator button with niceness to make you think it's in your head and really not her. This person is the devil in disguise. And that's exactly what the devil is.......the Master of Lies and Deceit. The proof is in the feelings you have. How do you feel after dealing with this person?......you feel terrible. That's your gut instinct telling you this person is bad. I say cut ties with this person immediately and expect there may be some negative blow back from this person, but just ignore it. I'm in the process of walking away from a toxic person in my life and it's hard, but some things have to be done for the sake of your own happiness and internal peace.