A couple of weeks ago I asked if I could bring my partner as we were discussing in session his concerns with me and T, and how that was affecting me.

(Long story short it was a combination of finding out I find T sexually attractive, and the fact that we use touch in session).

However T said he would prefer not to do this as he felt it would be intruding on our space. I kind of get this, but I figured both of us allowing it as a one off to help with this one (big) problem would be worth it.

My plan was to let Partner meet T alone for maybe 10 minutes to talk about the therapeutic process and for P to ask any questions he might not want to in front of me. Then I would come in and sit with T in the way we usually do so P can see the set up and touch usage.

T did however suggest that P contact the organisation individually to speak to a different T so there is no conflict of interest, but the response he actually got to this was basically, kind of yes ok, but they couldn’t even confirm whether or not I was going there.

The whole thing has actually got me quite frustrated. Wish P could just do the 10 minute thing then it would be over,