I've had a friend (I've called her my bf) for 3 years. I know, not a whole long time. We had our first falling out a couple years ago. I cut it off. a year later I went back and sort of apologized, although I knew it was not all my 'fault'. then another falling out. again, me cutting it off. this last may I went back (again). We are both bipolar. I guess I could stop there and stay "well that explains it all' lol. But now we've been talking since may. at first our friendship goes great. lots of communication. lots of contact. etc. although it seems like I have to pull the friendship most times. meaning I will text most often and she just replies. so I pulled that back a bit knowing I do not need to be always reaching out. so she took this as something is wrong (with me). like I have a problem again with the relationship. well I don't . I just don't want to text and wait 4 hours for a reply text. at the beginning of getting back together she was better about this. now it's back to no text for 4-8 hours. sometimes a day. and if I don't text at all she's asking 'what's wrong?' and 'tell me' . dumb. she really tries I think but when the honeymoon period of the friendship wears off she slacks. I cannot just tell her this because she is very thinned skin. and will take it hugely personally. I don't know how to explain it. so I'm just doing what I'm doing. but once again, doubting this friendship will ever survive. my bottom line and question is this...being mentally ill I find it extremely difficult to hold friendships. it's always games. they say they want to know if something is wrong, then you're honest, and then they get mad. I dunno I'm at a loss. help!
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