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she previously tried to get me to quit therapy a year ago by going to my husband and saying that my 'therapy' was interfering in our marriage. It wasn't therapy but what I am learning about my marriage.

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How would she know what is happening in your marriage and that your therapy is affecting it (whether it is true or not)? Did you or your husband tell her this? Since your mom has proven to be untrustworthy, I would not share with her any details about my therapy or how you are learning about your marriage through therapy. And I would ask my husband to also keep quiet on this with my mom.

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My mom first typed how she and my brother are learning so much as I learn about me in therapy.

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Don't tell her any more. I don't think your mom should be given the opportunity to "learn" secondhand from your therapy. She's just using it against you.

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So, thinking she didn't have an agenda after all
I responded to her that I'm gald she is supportive and it is an amazing experience. To which she replied, "I'm glad to hear that but know that one day you need to move on and deal with everything on your own, you have a family to get back to and your husband and son need you now time is precious".

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almedafan, you spend one hour a week in therapy and your mom thinks that is too much time away from your husband and son??? Again, if it were me, I would not share any details about my therapy with her. She is butting her head into places she does not belong.

If your mom asks again about attending therapy with you to work out her relationship with you, could you tell her that it can also be helpful to work on one's relationships in individual therapy, and right now you are doing individual work with your T? And perhaps she would like to find a therapist for herself in her own town so she can work on her relationships?

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When he and I talked about the email yesterday, that got him on the subject of when therapy does end and how this isn't supposed to go on forever. He told me to tell my mom that I guess to calm her fears. I am crushed. I was kind of speechless last night.

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I don't think you owe your mom any kind of answer about the length or content of your therapy. Plus, it is not your responsibility to calm her fears. Just suggest she see her own therapist if she wants greater insight into her relationships and behavior patterns.

Hope that isn't too harsh, but IMO your mom needs to butt out of your therapy. I think you can help her do that by not giving her any details.

((((hugs)))) for you, almedafan.