I was so so attached to previous T, and I had awful love/hate transference. I did not want to leave her at all, but she wouldn't keep me - she referred me to T. Honestly, as hard as it was (and sometimes continues to be), it was probably the best thing she could have done. I have come so far in the ensuing two years with T. I continue to process the relationship with previous T - there was so much happening there, so much to learn about myself, but it would have been really difficult to do it with her with me so blinded by the transference (and I honestly believe she struggled with it too, transference doesn't happen in a vacuum).
If your T is suggesting referral I would go with it - you've said before that she is very experienced, I'm sure she knows what she's doing... I'd be slow to quit outright though. I know from personal experience just how valuable learning through transference can be, if you can only step back far enough to see through it. Sometimes that will take working through it with a different person.
FWIW, I share some issues with you - I'm bad about receiving affection too, it's part of what I'm working on with T right now. I'm sure I could never have managed it with previous T, as I need to feel very secure in the relationship to be able to overcome my natural tendency to freak out, throw up walls and push the person away. It's making me very volatile and emotional...

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