I once had a therapist who suggested divorce for me as a solution to my "problems." I promptly fired him and found another therapist. He didn't know my husband, and frankly did not know me well enough to make such a suggestion. GOOD therapy involves including the current support system, which I would assume includes your husband, whom you yourself refer to as "Dear Husband." If you love the man.. .and you've said you do. . .then focus on what you can do to contribute to the marriage. Life is about compromises. Marriage is about sacrifice. You are not required to "loose yourself" but at the same time, you have to understand that your husband is a part of you. Remember that part of your vows?

It sounds as though your husband IS supportive of the therapy. It also sounds to me as though he craves more of your attention. I have been married for 13 years, and in that time have discovered that if my hubby is asking for time, not only does he really need it, but he needs to demonstrate to me his affections toward me. Men have this weird agenda, you know? They often need to "prove" to us their love. You don't have to give up time for yourself in order to give him some. Include him in the decision making process. You guys are in this thing together, right?

Some ideas might be to go out for a Happy Meal as a family, and then part ways for an hour or so. Or, go to the Y and walk, and then have him meet you there at a set time with your girls and go swimming together. Therapy is never about isolation. . .be very careful when you make time for you that you aren't isolating.

Hoping things work out for you. . .holding your hand.