Hey everyone,

Thank you so much for all your encouragement. I know it seems strange that hearing these things from strangers makes me feel better, but it does. DH and I have begun reading up on attachment disorder and are in the process of finding a specialist who focuses on it. Just hearing that we're not alone in this really makes a difference.

I know we're in for a long journey, but I really feel a lot better about it knowing there are people who experienced the same things. Thank you for recommending those documentaries, we watched both and they definitely opened our eyes to some subjects we hadn't even thought about.

I'm normally not too focused on 'labeling' kids, but I think putting a name to it will help solidify that this is a real problem. That we're not just failing as parents. And I agree with you, lizardlady, it's awful that they don't give adoptive parents more training in things like this. DH and I love our son, but we had no idea the situation we were stepping into.

Thank you for all your kind words!