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I got the distinct impression from the therapist that he thinks I might not be happy ever if I am married to my DH

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nuttya, did the therapist say this or were you trying to listen between the lines of what he was saying? Could you have gotten the wrong impression? I think it is really important to clarify this with him and see if you understood correctly.

I am in the process of getting a divorce and went through therapy before that. My T was never directive or came to the conclusion for me that I should get a divorce. He helped me explore the options. He leaves it up to the individual or couple to tell him if they want to work on preserving their marriage or ending it. And he is willing to work hard with them on whichever they choose. I hope you can talk openly with your T and clarify his intent regarding your marriage, and make sure.

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Then I get home and tell my DH that he is supposed to go with me to my next session

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If you would like your husband to attend therapy with you, then you could invite him. I think everyone would rather be invited than told they are supposed to go somewhere. Why do you say "he is supposed to go"? According to who? It is your therapy, so you can set the agenda. I hope your T is not the one telling you your husband is supposed to attend with you. It is always your choice.

I think this would be a great topic to discuss in therapy (your role and T's role in setting the direction for therapy, and how directive you would like your T to be).

I agree it can be so helpful to take some time for yourself. Could you do this during the day by enrolling your girls in pre-school (or some activity) for a couple of mornings a week?

Best of luck.