I am by textbook definition, obese. From age 18 until almost 30, I put on 100lbs. I am 5'4" and weigh 245lbs. I am fairly evenly distributed, but mostly pear shaped. My ex husband actually told me he was not attracted to me, sexually or otherwise, because of my weight gain. It was a sore spot for me, needless to say. It hurt so much to hear him put down anyone who was overweight. He himself is naturally thin--6ft. and 145lbs. Not everyone has that metabolism. Not to mention women gain weight differently, especially one taking many meds weight gain as a side effect.

Well, all in all, he is out of my life. As well as anyone who thinks like that. I am also quick to stop anyone who tries to judge another person at all. You know what? There are a lot of people out there that share the same viewpoint. Those are people you want as friends.

It should only be up to you if you are pleased with your body or not. I am honestly trying to lose weight for health reasons. That is always a good reason in my opinion. Of course, if you are happy with your health, don't let someone try to guilt you into losing weight for that reason.

I am sure you will find many friends who like you for all that you are.