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Old Aug 17, 2015, 12:38 PM
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First of all I went back to ready your post fully. What a nasty friend and I do think she might be saying what she says without thinking. It's all about how the "rules" are. Fukc the rules! I mean really are we all still in high school and is reality really like that. In some groups yes but in other no and most of the time some people just don't care.

I'm mad that it seems that a women who isn't in her teens is still treated like that. Your friend might still need to grow up some more in area than she knows.

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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert View Post
Today a good friend of mine told me on the phone when I talked to her about some friendship issues that some people might not want to be friends with me, even women, since I don't have a nice figure. WTH? She didn't say that I'm fat or that my figure is awful, but she might as well have, especially since she's always been thin, and she has made some comments about if I gained weight or not in the past. She has also told me that my stomach sticks out at times when I thought that I hid it fairly well in a nice maxi dress.

I don't think that she meant to be mean though. I do think that maybe she sort of looks down on fat people a little as she's disciplined about what she eats usually, and she takes walks everyday. I kind of feel like she's trying to tell me that I need to do more to loose weight. What's it to her though?

I am trying to loose weight, but it's not easy! I used to be thin, even she said so when she saw an old pic of me. Anyways, do any of you think that what she said is true? I asked my husband about this and he said yes, he doesn't care about weight as far as his friends are concerned, but he says that some people are like that. She also told me that some people will reject me for not working and not having a career. She doesn't work, but she used to be an engineer before having her hand injured playing sports.

Is she maybe trying to hint to me that I'm fat and lazy? Idk, but I hope that's not the case. What would weight have to do with being a platonic friend anyways? Who cares what a person looks like if you have no intention of dating them, or hooking up with them! I dress nice, I have good hygiene and I'm a nice person and good to my friends. Doesn't that matter more than what someone looks like? She also said it could be because of the way that you dress, your race, etc...

So, would any of you on here reject someone as a friend for being fat, ugly, or for not being the right race, etc???? If so, why? Also, a few nasty men have thought it was perfectly O.K to call me fat to my face. I told them off of course. I'm not super obese. I'm a size 12, and I am to big at 172lbs. most of the time. I used to be a size 4 at my smallest, and I'm only 5'4. I'd think that most women would be less likely to want to be friends with someone who looks like a supermodel, even if they are very fit and attractive themselves. What do you guys think of all of this? I guess that maybe some people think that all of us fatty's are lazy, stupid, ugly, etc???? That's not true of course! Why do some many people hate fat people, especially fat women? It's mean and not O.K to make fun of us for being big. Not everyone can be the perfect size no matter how much they diet and work out.
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