I did search for other local groups, but couldn't find any. This one just seemed like it was exactly what I was looking for.
I need to work through this and get past it. I know that. It's just really really hard!! Maybe I need to work on a list of all the things about T (not just her specifically) that worry me. For instance: crossing boundaries, wanting to know personal information about her, running into her in public, offending her, making her angry, making her want to reject me, etc.
I don't know why this gets me so frazzled.

BTW, it is not an "easy" read. At least it wasn't for me. It's taking me a lot of time to slog through it. However, it is FULL of good information, so I think taking it slow, and reading short amounts at a time is good.