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Originally Posted by Bill3
Hmm that's interesting. That strikes me as a rather aggressive move, which I would take that as a sign that she still has work to do on herself. In my opinion, it is unreasonable to demand a commitment this soon in her recovery.
"Waiting around" is allowing time for her to heal. If it were me, I would just say that I don't think enough time has passed to make a decision. If she leaves in response to that, so be it.
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Thank you for the response. I think her desire for full commitment now is based on her desire to have children sooner rather than later. The therapist suggested waiting for a few more months, and then reassessing.
I asked the therapist if the therapist thought she may have borderline personality disorder. She said no, but she has many of the traits however not enough for her to make that diagnosis.
She claims she is "healed" - never to resume her prior behaviors. She thinks I am being too harsh on her for not appreciating the changes she has made. I do appreciate the changes. However, I'm just not convinced they are forever yet. It's a tough situation.