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Old Aug 17, 2015, 09:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Gavinandnikki View Post
I'm not in therapy anymore but when I was I found that emails and texts lead to more hurt than help.

Phone calls were more helpful than hurtful, but not always.

I found that, aside from scheduling issues, out of session contact was fraught with potential perils.

Proceed at your own risk.
I've found with e-mails, that my T and MC, if they respond, just write a few sentences. And sometimes I'll end up reading the sentences again and again, trying to figure out exactly what they meant (Yes, OCD is one of my issues!) A couple times, I've misinterpreted and been worried about something needlessly.

Phone calls have generally been positive, except for one awful call with MC that started out fine, then basically ended with me sobbing and begging for something (another individual session with him) and him shutting me down, in what felt like a harsh way, which led to me leaving him a rather upset/angry message on his voicemail, then once I'd calmed down, sending like an 1,000-word e-mail explaining why I was upset. I think part of it was the fact that we were on the phone, so I couldn't see any sort of body language or facial expression, and took his words as harshly as possible. Where if we were in person, then both of us may have reacted differently. Took a few sessions to work that all out, but it's OK now.
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